One of the challenges that many children of aging parents face is helping their parent accept the need for in home care. Most older adults want to maintain their independence as long as possible, and the idea of having someone they do not know come into their home to help them with personal or daily tasks is often rebuffed. However, there are several helpful tips to help your parent or a loved one feel more comfortable and accepting of in home care.
If you haven’t done so already, consider sharing with your loved one that having a caregiver or in home care assistance is actually helping them maintain their independence longer by not moving into an assisted living facility. In home care allows for flexibility in how long a caregiver is at the home, from a couple of hours to around the clock, assistance can be tailored specifically to the areas that help is needed, and the cost is significantly less than an assisted living facility.
If you are currently helping with your loved ones needs, consider framing the idea of in home care as something that would help you with the care giving responsibilities. Often times making the need for in home care more about how it would benefit others in the family helps the person feel more receptive to the idea, and lessens potential resistance to the idea that help is needed. If your parent or loved one is married, another idea is to share how assistance with in home care would benefit the spouse. Perhaps the spouse has taken on additional responsibilities and it would also be advantageous to their well-being to have some additional help with household tasks or personal care.
Sometimes the approach of easing into having caregiver assistance can increase the trust and confidence about in home care. There is no substitute for firsthand experience, and working with a trusted in home care agency and having help from a professional caregiver even a few hours at a time can help the recipient of the care begin to build a relationship with the caregiver and experience the benefits.
Lastly, if you have not done so already, talk with your parent’s physician about your concern and belief that your parent(s) would benefit from in home care assistance. If their doctor also assesses that in home care would be beneficial, then he or she may be willing to tell your parents and this professional opinion may have a greater impact on being open to in home care assistance than talking with family members. Another possibility would be to have a licensed professional to assess the need for in home care assistance.
While making the transition from independence to in home care can be challenging, being equipped with knowledge and support can make the transition easier for you and your loved one. At Care from the Heart we can help with both assessing the necessity of in home care, as well as provide quality, compassionate and affordable caregiver services. We have more than 25 years of experience of providing trusted and professional caregiver services in Sun City and the Northwest Valley. If you have any questions or are interested in a free in-home assessment, call or contact us today.